From awkward habits to unspoken responsibilities, the Feel Good audience shares the realities of living with a partner no one warns you about
By Bulelwa Hoala
No one really prepares you for what it’s actually like to live with your partner. Whether it’s “vat en sit”, visiting while dating, or settling into married life, it always sounds like a dream at first. You picture a love story that feels like something straight out of a movie.
But the reality is very different.
Living together comes with its own set of surprises, adjustments, and unspoken expectations. You suddenly find yourself navigating habits you never noticed before, figuring out shared spaces, and dealing with responsibilities that were never clearly discussed.
“Nobody warned you about the fact that when your partner brings friends over, that’s not just your partner’s responsibility. You have to play a part in it as well. These people have to be fed and the house must be clean. You see how it also becomes your problem,” Andy Maqondwana said.
During the Girl, Let’s Talk segment on Feel Good, Maqondwana asked the Kaya 959 family to share some of the things nobody warned them about when it comes to living with a partner.
One caller said she’s embarrassed to share some of the habits she encountered after getting married.
“Nobody prepared me for the fact that after we got married, I would be living with someone who has really nasty habits, some that I’m even embarrassed to mention. Things like not washing properly after using the restroom, or leaving clothes all over the place, which I quickly nipped in the bud. There’s nothing that drives me more crazy than clothes lying around. And then there’s the expectation that you always have to cook. I love cooking, but it becomes something you no longer enjoy when it’s expected all the time.”
Another caller said that in her previous relationship, they clashed over buying food.
“I’ll probably say that when I was in that relationship, we didn’t discuss who was going to buy the food. I think we argued because we had not discussed the budget. I felt like he had to contribute more, while he also felt like I had to help out. It became a thing of who’s going to buy the meat, who’s going to buy breakfast, and things like that.”
Listen to the conversation on the podcast:
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