Anonymous loves her boyfriend but is worried this could land her in trouble
Katlego Sekhu
A listener shared that she has been dating her boyfriend for six years. She works at a company that supplies building materials, and he is currently planning to extend his mother’s house.
He has now asked her to bend the rules at work so he can get a discount on the materials.
The problem is, this could put her job at serious risk.
She says she loves him, but she is worried that going along with this could land her in trouble.
“I work for a company that sells building materials, mainly bricks. My role involves assisting walk-in clients, preparing quotations, and making sure everything is accurate before a sale is processed. I’ve been dating my boyfriend for about six months, and things have been going really well.
“I genuinely see a future with him. Recently, he shared that he wants to extend his mother’s house, which made me proud – it’s a meaningful project. But then he asked me for something that’s been weighing heavily on me. He wants me to give him a very big discount on the bricks – not just a standard customer discount, but to “make a plan” using my position at work. If I’m honest, I’m tempted. Part of me feels like if I can adjust the quotation slightly, l’ll make him happy, earn some brownie points in the relationship, and prove that I can be a worthy partner.
“But deep down, I know this could put my job at serious risk. If l’m caught, I could lose my income, my reputation, and future opportunities. But emotionally, there’s a feeling I can’t shake. What if he shela’d me for this vele vele? I feel stuck – between wanting to impress the man I love and protecting the career l’ve worked hard to build. Is it worth risking my job to make my boyfriend happy?
“If I refuse, he might see me as selfish and unsupportive. And if I agree, am I opening the door to a relationship where love starts to demand dishonesty? At what point does trying to prove yourself in a relationship become self-sabotage?”
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