Listeners share deeply personal stories about the painful experiences they have chosen to forgive but still struggle to forget.
By Bulelwa Hoala
Forgiving someone who hurt you can be very difficult, especially when the pain still runs deep.
However, forgiveness is important because it can help you move forward emotionally without excusing what happened or forgetting the pain.
In this week’s Girl, Let’s Talk segment on Feel Good, Andy Maqondwana invited listeners to share some of the things they have forgiven but will never forget.
“There are certain things in your life, whether it be with friends, career-wise, family, or relationships. You can say with confidence that you’ve healed and you’ve forgiven. But you can’t always say with confidence that you’ve forgotten. Your memory doesn’t allow you to, and sometimes your body doesn’t allow you to either,” Andy said.
One listener called in to share a deeply touching story about her lived experience of being accused by a relative of being responsible for her father’s death.
She explained that her parents had separated, and after her father died, relatives accused her of killing him, even though she was only 17 years old and in matric at the time.
“So my mom and my dad separated, and then my mom was accused, I was accused, and my grandmother was accused. I’ve forgiven, I really have. I’m cordial with the people who made those accusations now, but I still cannot forget or even think about it without feeling something,” she said.
Are you struggling to forgive someone?
Here are a few steps that may help you through the process:
Acknowledge the hurt
Be honest with yourself about what happened and how it made you feel.
Allow yourself to process the emotions
Give yourself time to feel the anger, disappointment, or sadness instead of ignoring it.
Choose to forgive
Make a conscious decision to let go of resentment, even if it takes time.
Communicate or create boundaries
If possible, express how you feel or decide what boundaries you need moving forward.
Focus on healing and moving forward
Let go of the need for revenge and shift your energy toward your own peace and growth.
Listen to the full conversation on the podcast below:
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